We all need to know that our partner loves and respects us as a human being, genuinely likes us and wants to be with us, and desires us above all other people. We need to know that our partner will be there when we need him/her/they most. You and your partner can be each other’s source of greatest resilience; each other’s safe haven and secure base. Let me help you get out of the negative patterns you may be in that are keeping you from creating this type of relationship.
I work with all couples, regardless of gender identity, expression, or sexual orientation, and families to enhance communications skills and strengthen the common bond. It is critical for couples to first identify their goals in coming to counseling. I believe in exploring every client’s thoughts and feelings in order to reinforce a sense of being heard, and to bring attention to each person’s unique perspective of the problem.
They may be mis-communicating what they really want to say, or they may just not understand the right ways to convey what they’re thinking to their partners. By utilizing different types of therapy – including mindfulness therapy, emotional therapy and behavioral therapy – it’s possible to address the root issues that are causing the strife in the relationship.
Quite often, couples that go to couple’s therapy find that they’re able to rekindle the love they once thought was lost. I work with many people to help them overcome their challenges and find new things and ways to connect. There is an emphasis working on the skills of listening, negotiation, compromise, mediation and decision-making as a team. I focus on developing skills of assertion, rather than aggression or passive-aggression.
Some of the topics covered in couples therapy include, but are not limited to:
- Working through infidelity
- Divorce and separation
- Sexual incompatibility
- Physical or mental conditions impacting the couple
- Same-sex relationship issues
- Spiritual/cultural differences
- Financial management
- Co-parenting after a divorce
- Remarriage & blending families
- Communication problems
- Conflicts about child rearing
- Changing roles (i.e. workforce reentry, retirement)